EGO: The Destroyer Of Relations...

     "EGO" this  word which can easily destroy a healthy relationship within seconds. It can be define as a person's sense of self-esteem or self-importance. Ego becames an issue when it becomes overpowering. Ego has its two sides positive and negative. But, mostly everyone knows about the negative side of ego only.

        The positive side of ego can be define as solid,healthy and strong sense of self. In this regard ego is quiet essential for everyone. This word ego was first used by john deway in an article with a different perspective,and probably it was not suppose to be used as a negative word like we did.

            I got an idea to write on this topic by real events which i witnessed. Recently when my friend had a fight with her friend,  she told me about this matter and i suggest her to say sorry and finish the mess but she said "no why should i? Like if she want to talk she will apologize am not going to say sorry". As per my opinion this sentence was so hypocritical because as long as we are friends it doesn't matter who said sorry first or who apologize first because friendship is a pure relation which can't be stained from  EGO.

           Accroding to many researches, it is defined that "complaint is ego's favourite  strategy for strengthening itself." Every complaint is a little story that mind makes up and that you completely believes in. Wheather you complaint aloud or in mind it makes no difference. Complaining about other person is habitual for everyone and due to this sometimes we feel unconsiouness as when we think that what are we  doing? Applying negative labels on people! Either on their face or most commonly when you speak about them to others. 

          Many times i had seen, that people stop talking and end their relationships just because of their ego.  once my father told me that "if you are trying to maintain relationships at any cost than you are able to enter in jannah at any cost!"And later on, i got to know that the the person who has in his heart a weight of a mustard seed of pride shall not enter in jannah. 

         Pride can be define as first stair of negative ego. Pride always gives you  egosick personality and you feel that there is no one but you,that you are the most successful person and you are unbeatable which is absolutely wrong. Ego always gives you a virtual world in which you are the hero/heroine of your own story which is just like children fantacy books! 

           As per my view there are three main points from which we can stop the egoism inside us..

           

  1. Forgiveness and letting go - this is the most important and most easiest point to control your ego because if we forgive someone and let it be then the half of our problmes will automatically solves!

2. Enjoy silent movements - celebrate those little movents of happiness which worth more than some victory. Once we are able to enjoy every movement of life then we are able to be satisfied and the positivity of our satisfaction will never allow ego to overcome us.

3. . Practice gratitude - “It’s not happy people who are thankful, it’s thankful people who are happy.” Take 5 minutes everyday to think about all the people, experiences, lessons and mistakes you are thankful for. Shukr allah for everything and  Your gratitude will always leads to positivity and happiness

        Hence, the point to write on this topic is to remove ego from our hearts to give infomtion about the positive side of ego so, one can develope it. As ego can do nothing but destroys person's happy life and healthy relations. I just wish that  whenever we need to aplogize or something like that we say "i will go frst" instead of "why should i go first?"

                         Hope u like!